Did you go traditional or write your own? If I remember correctly, the Husband wanted us to write our own. And even though I’m a writer by trade, I really wanted to do traditional vows. So we did both.
The “to have and to hold from this day forward” just struck a place in my heart. The promises of for better or worse, richer or poorer and in sickness and health just seemed important for me—with my fickle past—to utter out loud before God and the world to hear. And especially “forsaking all others” – as I’d not been so good at that in my earlier years. The sentiment of I’m sticking with this one, no matter what, was a crucial aspect of the ceremony for me. I wanted to know it. I wanted him to know it.
In our self-written vows, I made lots of other promises – to trust his leadership of our family, to forgive quickly and ask for forgiveness often and most of all to trust our relationship and my concerns in this life to the Lord first and foremost.
Mmmm…it was really good for me to go back and read our vows today. I meant what I said then, and I still mean it today. I don’t always get all of those things right. But I’m here and I’m not goin’ anywhere.